What are the four points of balance?
The four points of balance are four anchors of growth, coined by Dr. David Senrash, that help our selves to expand through the challenges of life and our relationships. The four points are defined as "calm heart and quiet mind", "stable-flexible self", "grounded reactions " and "endurance for meaning".
According to the therapeutic approach based on these four points, we get stuck emotionally, intimately, sexually, socially and practically, when our four points are weak. In this situation, our inner center is not bright enough for us to cope with the mental changes required of us in order to grow. Most of the time we don't even manage to deeply understand the required change in our lives, because our selves are overwhelmed.
The feelings that accompany weakness in our four points of balance can be anxiety, avoidance, emptiness, depression, addictions, problems creating intimacy, lack of professional clarity, emotional flooding, and a general feeling of dispersion, loss and emptiness.
What are the four points of balance?
A calm heart - a quiet mind
There is no life without challenges, and no perfect personality. We grow through our hardships and humanity. Our ability to do this depends on our ability to acquire tools of understanding and reflection, which help us to reduce aggressive feelings towards ourselves and others in Thali ("calm heart"). In addition, we grow when we acquire an authentic and strong internal language - a clear and clear mind - which allows us to overcome external and internal pressures and act in a way that suits our values ("Quiet Mind").
Stable-flexible self
Our sense of self is the basis of our ability to be in intimacy with others, and to bring ourselves to true expression in the world. The feeling that we have a center, a deep inner resource, allows us to feel relaxed in relationships and also to take risks: to be vulnerable, and to show weakness.
This stability of the self that we acquire, allows us to dare and connect to life from a place of expansion and creativity. We are freed from an unhealthy dependence on others that may lead us to attempts to control them through gratification or predation. Instead, we begin to control ourselves, and our sense of autonomy increases as our sense of self becomes clearer and softens.
Grounded responses
Many of our emotional difficulties stem from survival reactivity. This reactivity originates from unconscious patterns we acquired in childhood, through traumas that affected our beliefs, our nervous system and our thought patterns. In the emotional therapy, we learn techniques of presence and connection even while we are experiencing an emotional "volcano".
Endurance for meaning
People will do anything, but everything, to get rid of unpleasant feelings they have quickly: cigarettes, addiction to money, pleasing others and much more. The ability to bear unpleasant feelings - and not rush to get rid of them in a manipulative way, requires belief that we grow through dealing with life. Conflicts invite us to develop a self that stands for our values, our faith, and our inner truth. The more we are willing to bear difficult feelings for our emotional growth, the less we rush to obscure our feelings through escape, and our self will be firmly rooted through life's challenges.
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